Although the Yoni massage can be extremely stimulating, the purpose is
not to bring the woman to orgasm. Rather, it is to relax the receiver
and to bring emotions to the surface. The experiences and feelings that
a woman may have during the Yoni massage can be very different, ranging
from anger, lust, sadness, or even indifference. Everything is possible
and everything is allowed. The Yoni massage is not about focusing on a
special kind of feeling or fulfilling a particular expectation. The idea
is simply to observe and to experience.
The Sanskrit word for the male sexual organ is Lingam and is loosely
translated as "Wand of Light." In Tantra or Sacred Sexuality, the Lingam
is respectfully viewed and honoured, as a "Wand of Light" that channels
creative energy and pleasure.
Orgasm is not the goal of the Lingam massage although it can be a
pleasant and welcome side effect. The goal is to massage the Lingam,
also including testicles, perineum and Sacred Spot (prostate)
externally, allowing you to surrender to a form of pleasure you may not
be accustomed to.
Men need to learn to relax and receive. Traditional sexual conditioning
has the man in a doing and goal oriented mode. The Lingam Massage allows
the man to experience his softer, more receptive side and experience
pleasure from a non-traditional perspective.